Am I mom enough? you ask?
I refuse to answer that question.
I refuse to judge another mother because she chooses a different parenting style.
I refuse to assume that she cares less for her children than I care for mine because she parents differently.
I refuse to engage in any mommy war, especially those created because you want to sell magazines.
I refuse to spit in another mother’s face.
I refuse to omit fathers from the picture when they are parents, too.
I refuse to use as ammunition at other mothers my anger and frustration about this country’s meager support for parenting.
I refuse to feel insecure or guilty about the thoughtful, difficult choices I have made for my family.
I refuse to settle for the binary mothering choices you offer me.
I refuse to be distracted from supporting mothers and fathers whose choices are limited by circumstance and policy.
I refuse to remember that when mothers fight other mothers, children suffer.
I refuse to take up arms — my hands are too busy forging new life.
I refuse to answer your question, Time Magazine. You set me up to lose.